Phil Di Loreto

About Phil

I’m a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) working with queer individuals and ethically non-monogamous couples. Two communities I’m part of, not just trained to support. I know what it’s like to navigate identity questions that don’t have tidy answers, to love in ways that don’t fit conventional scripts, and to sit with the weight of being seen, or not seen, in the world. That lived experience shapes how I show up in the room. I’m not a neutral observer. I’m a fellow traveller.

My practice, Here We Are Therapy, offers in-person sessions in East Vancouver and virtual sessions across BC and Ontario. I work with 2SLGBTQ+ individuals navigating anxiety, depression, burnout, gender and sexual identity, and self-worth. I also work with couples and relationships of all configurations, including polyamorous, open, and other ethically non-monogamous structures, supporting communication, emotional intimacy, conflict, and the unique dynamics that come with loving outside the mainstream.

Clinically, I draw on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method for relationship work, and Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for individual work. I’m trauma-informed and racially justice-allied.
This isn’t about fixing what’s broken. It’s about making space for what’s real: the messy, the meaningful, the in-between.

If something here resonates, I offer a free 20-minute consultation at herewearetherapy.ca.